About

 

 

 

Hi. Welcome to Under the Green Fig Tree! Please make yourself at home.

 

A little bit about me

My name is Suzy – not short for anything; that’s all the name I was given. I’m a 40-something writer and mum. I live in Cornwall with my husband, two kids (aged 6 and 5 – yes, seriously short gap), and rescue cat.

I work from home as a copywriter in the short days between school drop off and pick up. This job suits me well. I love telling stories and my peaceful days happily balance out the crazy of family life.

I try to blog here once a week, writing in the evenings when the kids have eventually gone to bed, or on a Saturday morning, if I can score some quiet time.

I love taking photos. I’m learning, slowly, how to get better at that and you can see my pictures on Instagram.

 

A little about this blog

I started the blog in the summer of 2017. It’s a place where I try to explore and figure out the in-between limbo-like state of working mum. 

I was brought up in the 80s and 90s. When women wore shoulder pads and push-up bras under their fluorescent t-shirts. Thatcher and Madonna showed us we could be anything we wanted to be.

A straight-A student, I got as far as my PhD in Italian History when hormones took control of my brain and all I could think of was starting a family.

I dithered and procrastinated for months and months because, even though I’d been brought up to think otherwise, deep down I knew I had to make the choice between career and kids.

That’s when I came across a passage in Sylvia Plath’s The Bell Jar that basically gave me the kick up the arse I needed to start my family. You can read more about that here. Plath’s female lead can’t decide which path to take with her life and likens it to sitting under a green fig tree watching the figs (her possibilities) ripen, and then wither and die as she sits there starving hungry but unable to make a choice.

So I picked that fig, started my family and then tried to get back under the tree.

But finding the right balance as a working mother is bloody difficult.

I’m still trying to figure out how to juggle everything I want and need to do with being a good mum. And that’s kind of what I write about. I don’t have all the answers. Or even most of them. But I’ll share mine if you share yours.

Want to read some more? Here are some of my favourite articles to get you started:

A mother’s CV

I’m crap at multitasking and so are you

Is it possible to be a good mother and be creative?

Boys don’t cry

One white wedding and two babies later, am I still a feminist?

 

A little about my background

I’m from Yorkshire – although you wouldn’t know it from my accent, unless you catch my flat, Northern ‘a’s over a ‘glass’ (I’ll never say ‘glarse’) of wine. My husband is from Essex and my kids were born in Cornwall. I love it down here, but my dream home lies somewhere in Southern Italy, where I am destined to grow old.